Seeing the Illusion

Sometimes trying to help family members can be one of the hardest things that we can ever experience. We tend to give all we have to the ones that we love, and sometimes we are betrayed by the ones that we have given all to. It can feel like a knife cutting straight into our hearts. But there is always […]

The Many Face Of Child Abuse – Part 6

Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. Last updated: July 2013. Helping An Abused Child What should you do if you suspect that a child has been abused? How do you approach him or her? Or what if a child comes to you? It’s normal to feel a little overwhelmed and confused in this situation. Child abuse is a […]

The Many Faces Of Child Abuse – Part 5

Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. Last updated: July 2013. If you need professional help… Do you feel angry and frustrated and don’t know where to turn? Visit Chiworld.org for helplines. Recognizing abusive behavior in yourself Do you see yourself in some of these descriptions, painful as it may be? Do you feel angry and frustrated and don’t […]

The Many Faces Of Child Abuse – Part 3

Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. Last updated: July 2013. Types of Child Abuse There are several types of child abuse, but the core element that ties them together is the emotional effect on the child. Children need predictability, structure, clear boundaries, and the knowledge that their parents are looking out for their safety. Abused children cannot predict […]

The Surrogate Dad

Our society in general seems suspicious of the paternal instinct. Many people doubt the existence of such a thing. Fathers are perceived as natural tomcats, rootless and without loyalty, given to roam. But I discovered in my own relationship, I feel a protective instinct when I’m around kids. I’m conscientious of the ways in which my presence might nourish their […]

The Many Faces Of Child Abuse – Part 2

Understanding Child Abuse Myths and Facts About Child Abuse and Neglect MYTH #1: It’s only abuse if it’s violent. Fact: Physical abuse is just one type of child abuse. Neglect and emotional abuse can be just as damaging, and since they are more subtle, others are less likely to intervene. MYTH #2: Only bad people abuse their children. Fact: While […]

The Many Faces of Child Abuse – Part 1

Stop The Chain Of Abuse Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. Last updated: July 2013. Child abuse is more than bruises and broken bones. While physical abuse might be the most visible, other types of abuse, such as emotional abuse and neglect, also leave deep, lasting scars. The earlier abused children get help, the greater chance they have […]

Sacrafice

I have often been asked why I do what I do? Why take on the responsibility of being ‘father’ to so many orphaned/at risk or otherwise disadvantaged children? I have been criticized, I have been discussed and at time humiliated and sarcastically mocked for following my dream of giving children a chance at making better choices. The past month, I […]